First-Aid Kit for Dying and the Afterlife
February 13th, 2010 | 
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Excerpt from Chapter 10 of Marcia’s upcoming book, Going Out in Style: A Guide to Planetary Departure
Let’s take what we’ve talked about and create a first aid kit for you and your loved ones. Let’s get clear and practical on this so you can dance yourself into the afterlife without confusion. Despite how clear you may think your belief system is, or that a belief system is unnecessary and bogus, your actual inner discipline and awareness is crucial here. So are your conscious dying street smarts. Remember that you might be old or young, ready or unready, but the when of your departure is usually unknown. So a first aid kit is good self-care for birthing yourself more happily into the next world.
First-Aid Kit for Dying Well on this Side
1. Live consciously NOW. This includes:
a) learning to forgive and let go of your baggage
b) developing compassion for all beings
c) practicing mental discipline
d) fostering an inner life, i.e. using contemplation, relaxation, meditation, etc. Look your inner and outer life in the eye. Then go even deeper. Your true nature is marvelous and vast, awaiting your discovery.
2. Walk with your death. It’s here, just over your shoulder. Turn and say hello often. I’m serious. As you take your evening walk along the river, smile and look over your shoulder and say, “Hi there, my dear Departure. How’s it going?” See what happens inside you.
3. Focus on what you want to grow. Your inner thoughts and feelings match what you magnetize to yourself here and in your passing. Hone your ability to consciously create more joy, love, grace, empowerment, etc.
4. Release guilt. Release guilt. Release guilt. Take whatever you are, whatever you’ve done or not done that you hold guilt and shame about, and ask, “What can I learn from this? How can I think about this in a bigger, more soulful way?” Ask for help in releasing the heaviness you carry and, no matter how flawed you may feel, commit to being a learner on the journey of life. If you grow from this, all is not lost. Release the guilt and step into your worthiness as a child of the Universe. Unresolved guilt draws us back lifetime after lifetime to try to rectify our guilt feelings. So do that now. Then you can come back with a clearer slate.
5. Get comfortable with altered states. Develop your inner perceptions: inner sight, inner hearing, inner feeling/knowing. Remember you won’t have your physical eyes and ears and body. You will be perceiving with higher senses. Meditation, guided imagery, bodywork, relaxation, dance, yoga, deep prayer, whatever helps you let go of the limited rational, pushy left brain for a while. Drop into your deep feeling nature, your Self!
First Aid Kit For the Other Side
6. Know how to tell if you are already on the other side. This is important. If you become confused, ask yourself these questions:
- Am I walking through walls?
- Are people not listening to me, no matter how I try to get their attention?
- If I walk by a mirror or reflective surface, is there no reflection of me?
- Am I getting from one place to another as if by flying or by the power of thought?
- Where is my physical body? Can I re-enter it?
(Note: If you can get back into your own body and it feels like it’s truly yours, then you’re an astral traveler and have had an out-of-body experience-OBE. If you almost couldn’t get back in, or didn’t want to get back in but were told you must, and have experienced talking with guides or light/dark entities, you’ve had a near-death-experience-NDE.)
So if you:
a) Can’t get back into your body
b) Can’t get people’s attention
c) Can’t see your reflection in a mirror
d) Are unhindered by physical matter, or time and space-you have died.
You can then say to yourself, “Oh, now I remember reading about this. These are
the clues that I am dead to that body and am now in the afterlife, very much alive!”
Remember, many folks die not realizing that they have died. They may have known
they were going to die, but don’t realize it has happened because they feel the same.
They hang around here and sometimes get into trouble. You don’t want to be one of
those folks.
7. Release your body, and your life. So let’s say you’ve discerned you are dead to this world and have arrived on the other side. If you want to go check on people you love and say goodbye, do so. But remember, you are now done with this chapter. You are okay. Get acquainted with your new world. You will probably find it quite pleasant and familiar.
8. Focus deeply. Once you have determined that you are on the other side, meditate and use the mantras, prayers and chants that lift your soul. You no longer have a body to help you get grounded so any and all spiritual and mental focusing abilities will help you navigate to higher realms. Wishy-washy focus gives you less options and a more unplanned result.
9. Simply be with the experience of passing over. Watch sensations, noises and colors if they arise. Keep praying with a gentle grateful heart. The noises and sensations and colors can be your consciousness separating from the body. Don’t attach to any of it. Tibetan Buddhists describe the sensations of dying as sometimes intense. For example, every hair on the head may feel like a tree and you are walking through that forest with the trees falling around you. Some people experience roaring as soul force pulls itself out of the body and the separation process unfolds. Some just move up and out. Let it happen. It’s surprising but you are okay.
10. Aim high. If you are Buddhist, invoke the Buddha of Infinite Light. If you are Christian, invoke the risen Christ to guide you. If you are a follower of the Kriya Yoga path, invoke Yogananda or Sri Yukteswar or Babaji to lift you to the high astral realms. If you are of another mindset, invoke the highest beings and highest consciousness within your system of understanding to escort you to your afterlife home, such as angels, guides and ascended masters. But let go of it having to happen a certain way or you may trip yourself up. Let heaven show you around.
11. Be honest. Be willing to see your own karma as it rises and you evaluate your life. The winds of karma blow us. If there are fearful visages, take them as representative of your own fears and love them into calm. Don’t be blown away. Stay neutral and let them go. If there are heavens you long to participate in, let your devotion to the Divine swell, and your beautiful heart open so that love leads you there. Here’s where we really experience the power of our thoughts. And our hearts. Don’t settle. Call for the Love you long for.
12. Let yourself be taken to a place of reflection on your life. If your life has been tiring or you die from a long illness you will be given a time for rest and recovery. Remember, your body is gone. You are recovering in spirit and it needn’t take long. Here is where you can be as thorough as you like. Learn as much as possible from the life just lived. Ask for your guide to assist you in seeing what you have gained and where you might like to improve yourself.
13. Set sail! At some point, you will feel unfettered and complete with the life you have left. Let that happen sooner rather than later. You can still be in contact with loved ones on Earth in a healthy way while being free to experience your unlimited divine nature. You are free to study, to learn, to go to higher dimensions or return to Earth for further growth and service. Or all of the above. Relish the light, the incredible love, the wisdom granted you from your sojourn. You can now KNOW you are a being of Infinite Light.
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